Reina has a story that many creative minds can relate to- a journey to discovering your true passion. Reina describes it as her “growing up” journey for one creative entrepreneur. If you’ve ever struggled with what you should do in life, read this story and you’ll know you are definitely not alone.
“Have you always known what you wanted to do when you grew up? I did. I wanted to be an attorney. I wanted to bring joy to people, to give them justice. I was so narrowly focused on going to law school, becoming an attorney. At the height of the recession, as unemployed folks flooded higher education institutions, the chance of me going to law school got even more slim.
With a bruised ego, I pursued every darn job. Bartender. Server. Operations Director for a Presidential Campaign. Retail Manager. Retail Sales Associate. Intern. Intern again. Program Coordinator at a non-profit. Event coordinator. I knew I wanted to help but I didn’t know how. I had the gumption but I didn’t know who could appreciate me. I was a hard worker but I always felt under appreciated. I was always underpaid.
I decided to pursue a Master’s in Social Work because it used my degree in Psychology – it was a degree I could use to help people. I could gain the tools to be more marketable as an employee in the future. But I still felt lost. I had lost that clear cut path of “I’m going to be an attorney” and felt like I was wandering through fog. I wanted to do something meaningful. I desired to be of service to others – to help change people’s lives.
Oh and I wanted to have fun. While I was in grad school, I started my own wedding planning company. I worked part time in my business while I was in school and worked in my new social work career. I adored the beauty of the wedding industry. It had allure. It was creatively stimulating. I LOVE logistics. I got to work with some incredible couples who adored me and my work. Even more, I loved working with vendors who worked full time in their creative businesses. I was so jealous. I was so envious that they got to do the thing they were called to do, the thing they were really good at and loved! I knew I wanted the feeling of this industry but I didn’t want to pursue it full time.
I had a life altering event during my second year post-graduate school. I worked at a university and commuted 2-3 hours every day. It was a great job but the drive was draining. During this time, I had a baby, went through maternity leave and went back to the long commute. Through pouring rain, through screaming baby, I continued to do that route for 6 months. I wasn’t sure if this was all that there was.
In October 2014, I decided to leave that position with absolutely no job prospects. I thought it was the noble thing to do – to be a stay at home mom. Turns out, I’m a terrible stay at home mom. I had a lot of guilt around feeling like maybe I actually preferred the long commute I had just given up to be with my son. I needed something else in my life. I knew that I couldn’t be the only one who was going through the agony of losing an important part of my identity. Being a mom is incredibly important – it’s also important to be fulfilled. If my (or your) calling is to be more than a mom, that’s okay. I’ve embraced the guilt, climbed over it, and found that I’m really good at what I do. I realized that after 29 years in life, I had learned to turn down my intuition. Everything in my training thus far hadn’t required it – it required the rational, strategic side of me. I had been told I had high emotional intelligence but every work environment basically told me that that wasn’t very helpful or needed. I decided to lean into my intuition, giving it permission to guide me more. I gave myself permission to ask “what if?” and to ponder over what truly made me happy.
I started a business doing all the things I LOVE doing. Now I get to coach creative entrepreneurs who have a million amazing ideas in their heads but can’t seem to make it happen. I help them take action on what’s most important so that they can become the go-to experts in their industries! Reina + Co was born out of a need for community. It was my cry to give to the world, to be needed for my skills. I wanted so badly to make an impact, to bring joy to others. I feel like in my first year of business, I’ve done more than achieve that goal. This isn’t a fairytale and it’s not a happy ending. I fought (society and myself to believe that I could have something that I wanted to build. This is just the beginning of a new chapter and my first rule is to believe that whatever it is that I want is worth trying.”
Reina Pomeroy of Reina + Co, is a Life and Biz success coaching practice for ambitious, creative boss ladies who want to become the go-to expert in their fields.