You’re Engaged Now What?! | First Steps after the Proposal

You’re engaged, now what?

Don’t just spend time asking Google questions.  “What to do now that you’re engaged”

Anna Arpasi Photography - Beach Proposal PhotographsPhoto Credit: Arpasi Photography

Once the ring is on your finger, it’s very easy to get caught up in the excitement. Your closest friends might give you a few copies of a bridal magazine.  Your mother might want you to go to a bridal show.  You might have already planned most of your wedding on Pinterest.  But before you start selecting your colors, put the brakes on for just a minute and make sure you and your partner are on the same page.

  • Call your closest friends and relatives.  Wait a week or more to announce on social media!  Take time to discuss and figure out what the two of you want, before the universe begins to chime in!
  • Get your ring insured.  Most home insurance and property insurance will have side policies.  Be sure to get your ring appraised and fully insured
  • Make a date with your  S.O.  Grab a piece of paper and pen.  Leave the magazines, Pinterest accounts and cell phones behind.  Time yourselves for 2-5 minutes and each person can write out what they want for the big day.  Don’t forget to say what is non-negotiable, whether it’s keeping the ceremony intimate or having your puppy Milo being the ring bearer.  This is a great activity particularly if your partner has trouble communicating what they really want.  

Carly Fuller Photography - New Jersey Proposal PhotographsPhoto Credit: Carly Fuller Photography (left) & Arpasi Photography (right)

  • Look at your schedules. Choose a date to begin planning for, you can always adjust what you tell people later.  Choose a month, season, or year to answer the endless “big day” questions! There may be a certain time of year that works best for you and your partner’s work schedules.  If you’ll want to honeymoon immediately, consider if you can take the time off from work.
  • Talk about budget.  This could be the first thing you do. You should talk to any family members that might be planning to contribute.
  • Write down who you definitely want there before deciding on location.  If you want your 80 year old grandmother there, a destination wedding might not be the best fit.
  • Create your own wedding blog to share about your story, details as they come, and your new engagement photos!

Lindsey Gerstlauer Photography - Proposal PhotographsPhoto Credit: Lindsey Gerstlauer Photography

  • Consider your families and talk to them.  Your parents may have certain expectations.  Let them know what you are and are not willing to bend on.
  • Hire a wedding planner.  Depending on your budget and size of the event you’ve daydreamed about so far, be sure to hire a professional who has experience and knows how to make it all happen.  It will decrease stress and often accomplish the planning faster and save money and time.
  • Start a weddings savings account!  Choose a way to begin to save so that the retainer’s are not landmines when they come about.
  • Keep dating. Most important, don’t forget to go out with your fiance and talk about non-wedding related topics.  Often wedding planning will become a second job, don’t allow it take hold of every free moment the two of you spend until that big day.  Continuing to date is so important and will help the days when there are hard decisions to make.



Alexa Nahas Photography - Philadelphia Proposal PhotographsPhoto Credit: Alexa Nahas Photography

You might be surprised at what your partner says matters most to them.  Remember to know when to be flexible and when to stick to your guns.  Pick your battles.  But mostly, don’t forget this is about the two of you and what is most important to you.

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